Oh Dear Once, Why Dad?

Often times we are not even aware of the words "Aah ..", "Ouch", "shame", "Why Dad?", "Bete I dapet problems continue?", And other phrases that seem "Complaint" out from our lips. Words have meaning light but can not accept wholeheartedly what he was experiencing, whether it's test in the form of major or minor disaster though.

One time a friend said, "Why are prety well lately many disasters happen to me? Coupled friends started to have less interest in me and alas I was not trusted. Perhatianlah Some say less, not fair, here's why. I'm so confused. And I've tried to do what I can. makes me sad. Why all end up like this? "

Someone who initially berniatan noble, when it gets pressure from the surrounding narrative could have been issued as above. On the one hand he willingly accepted what he was experiencing, but on the other hand there are whispers that make it regretted the circumstances.

Laments that emanated mainly due to follow the promptings of the passions, not able to withstand the pain or inner emotions, lack of gratitude for favors so much compared to the new disaster strikes, or the weakness of faith against qadha and Qadr, so do not understand the wisdom behind the disaster .

Why the hell should there calamity? The accident is a means test of achievement of one's faith. Rasulullah SAW said, "The people who got the test is the greatest of the prophets, then the martyrs, then the people level with him." In addition, the disaster is a means to measure the truth of faith. Allah lowers unfortunate that we could actually measure whether we have faith or not? or could be a disaster as a punishment handed down the disobedience and disbelief that we should be wary. Is not the revelation of doom in the world better than in the hereafter? That we should first recognize mistakes and sins. Subhanalloh how his love of Allah on those who receive disaster and managed to cultivate patience on him. Allah says in the letter Ar-Rum: 41, "has seen the damage on land and in the oceans caused by the actions of human hands, so that Allah feel to them some of the (result of) their deeds, that they return to the right path."

The main key of solving this problem is to be patient, ie refraining from grief, anger, especially from the hope of the mercy of others. Rasulullah SAW said, "Patience is when facing the first test of disaster." Because at the moment that tested the faith of Allah, whether he managed to fight to restore all his affairs in Allah and harbored a deep emotion, or even the more soluble in prolonged grief to always feel restless.

Are patient with buried emotions can solve the problem? Of course not. At least with buried emotions, there is a sense of calm in our hearts. When the feeling of peace that comes, will ringanlah for us to think clearly. As we have already passed the test of patience, then we have to check and re-check again what the nature of the calamities that we have experienced.

Let us examine each problem / catastrophe that we are facing, that we are free from the disease laments, with:

· Keeping all causative laments.

· Studying the consequences.

· Understand the meaning of patience and a whole benefits.

· Convinced that the ordeal is the destiny of Allah is best for us, and the future will prove a silver lining.

· Holding emotions as much as possible so as not to cause adverse reactions to physical action.

· If there is resentment, immediately moved from his seat, take ablution water and seek forgiveness read 3 times.

· Pray, "O Allah, save me in this musibahku, and may you replace it with the baby something better than this."

· Always grateful for favors received.

However disaster leads us kejalan better and passing musibahlah Allah granted the prayer that we often pray, "O Allah, guide us to the right path, the path that You ridhoi." That we belong to the lucky ones to come later in life. Hopefully we can change the word Oh, dear Once, Why dad? with more words that have a meaning like "Mashallah Allah", "Astaghfirullah", and other words that could further reassure us. Allaah knows best bishawab.

(Qudwah, reading material: Liver Disease, Uwes Al-Qorni)